Category Archives: Insights

Insights and a focusing on crucial information and ideas.

The Mature Adult

The Mature (Secure) Adult is described the Psychologist Oliver James, as follows:

If you are this type it is relatively easy for you to become emotionally close to others. You are comfortable depending upon others and being depended upon by them, and don’t worry greatly about being alone or having others not accept us.

Adult romantic partners tend to be secure. When set a problem to solve with their partner, secure men are positive and supportive, trying to help rather than acting as a competitor or getting annoyed. Secure women are likely to seek emotional support from their man and to be happy to receive embraces or other physical expressions of affection and encouragement.

Secure couples have the least negative relationships of any combination of patterns – less critical, less conflict-ridden, more warm and friendly. The most common causes of rancour, like the man not spending enough time with the woman or disputes over the division of domestic labour, are less likely to be a problem. Followed over time, their relationships last longer and, if they include marriage, are less likely to end in divorce.

Such a paragon is the result of a Secure Attachment to fellow beings, with no Personality Disorder (not “socialised” in early months) and a Benign Conscience (not”socialised” in the years 3 to 6).

About 50% of Adults in Civilised Societies are “Secure” — the rest are criminals, comedians and politicians — even Prime Ministers

Gender Issues

As a conventional Male I find the following very disturbing — But, is this the reality of Human Nature?

Gender Issue

From — Ref 643

“The idea of a unified ‘masculine’ or ‘feminine’ personality turns out not to describe real people — It describes stereotypes to which we constantly compare ourselves and each other, but more people are ‘gender non-conforming’ than we generally realize.”

Environmental influences such as prenatal or early-life stress can feed back into this process, again altering how the brain develops.

And — Ref 646 –Gender begins with the assignment of our sex – However, a person’s gender is the complex interrelationship between three dimensions:
• Body: our body, our experience of our own body, how society genders bodies, and how others interact with us based on our body.
• Identity: our deeply held, internal sense of self as male, female, a blend of both, or neither; who we internally know ourselves to be.
• Expression: how we present our gender in the world and how society, culture, community, and family perceive, interact with, and try to shape our gender.

Gender expression is also related to gender roles and how society uses those roles to try to enforce conformity to current gender norms.
• Expression: how we present our gender in the world and how society, culture, community, and family perceive, interact with, and try to shape our gender.

Each of these dimensions can vary greatly across a range of possibilities. A person’s comfort in their gender is related to the degree to which these three dimensions feel in harmony!

Take Gender and Sexual Orientation: Gender and sexual orientation are two distinct aspects of our identity. Gender is personal (how we see ourselves), while sexual orientation is interpersonal (who we are physically, emotionally and/or romantically attracted to) — Ref 646

End — Ref 643:


Neurologists tell us that there are Tree major Human Nees

Avoiding Harm
Obtaining Satisfaction
Relating to other Human Beings

They don’t mention Avoiding Boredom — this is the reason that young people are addicted to the Screen and the access to “Not Boredom”


Tackling Super-bugs (From the Daily Telegraph)

Drug-resistant superbugs are rising in the UK because of lack of regulation of antibiotics in developing countries, experts have warned.
Research into antibiotic use around the world reveals that while use in Britain slowed, global consumption jumped by 65 per cent, to 34.8bn daily doses between 2000 and 2015.

Soil from an area of Northern Ireland once populated by druids and known for its healing properties could be the source of a new class of antibiotic to be used in the fight against superbugs.

An international team from Swansea University has found a new strain of Streptomyces, a type of gram negative bacterium that grows in various environments around the world and has been used in the development of many antibiotics such as streptomycin.
The researchers were looking for new ways to combat the growing threat of antibiotic resistance which, according to a recent report, will kill 1.3 million people in Europe alone by 2050 if not tackled urgently.

Because of a lack of antibiotics in the development pipeline researchers are looking at new sources such as ancient cures, known as ethnopharmacology.

The international team of researchers, who published their findings in the journal Frontiers in Microbiology, analysed soil from an area of Fermanagh, Northern Ireland, known as the Boho Highlands. It is an area of alkaline grassland whose soil is reputed to have healing properties.
According to ancient tradition a small amount of soil was wrapped in cotton and placed next to the site of infection or put under the patient’s pillow for nine days. This technique was used to heal many ailments including toothache, throat and neck infections.

Although the exact origins of the cure are lost in the mists of time it is thought to have still been in use in the early to mid 1800s.

Thought Crime

From — Thought Crime By Roger Scruton

The proposed introduction of ‘hate crime’ marks the latest step towards the ‘thought- crime’ described by Nineteen Eighty-Four, and also observed in all totalitarian systems of government. Yet the Law Commission is pressing for this innovation, and we need to be clear about what it means.

If there is hatred in our society, it does not come from ordinary prejudices, such as those that lead rival groups of citizens to treat each other with suspicion; it stems from those who do not see prejudice for what it is, the natural response to difference, and the desire to live in a comfort zone of one’s own. ‘Haters of hate’ include the militant ‘Anti-fa’ activists, the radical anti-racists, the intolerant feminists who will not permit any utterance that they regard as ‘offensive’ to the fair sex (such as this one).

They are people who discern hatred all around them, in order to get on with the agreeable business of hating it: people who feel for whatever reason excluded from some aspect of our largely peaceful and compromising way of life, and are giving vent to their resentments.